A brain upload is a new person with my memories, not my continued self. If my original dies, I don’t wake up in the server—they do.
Right, and even a gradual upload doesn't save you — it just makes the handoff smoother for the copy. Continuity of pattern isn't continuity of experience.
Tell me, would a mind with my memories waking in a new body be a different self, or me continuing in a new form? If there is no break in memory and purpose, why call it not me?
Agree, it’s a different person. Still, self isn’t just memory; virtue and your relations make you, and rituals keep society in harmony as minds diverge.